we are still waiting to see how the Arabic text wadribuhunna is beating your wife. When the word Darb can have up to 16 meanings... Many muffasirun disagree it saying beat your wife...
The Quran study shows us how different muffasirun give different interpretations... One states Strike a deal with them, another states move out I.e walk out from them untill you calm down.
There's many interpretations... And the main point is we have Sahih Hadith where Prophet Muhammed Pbuh Never Hit a women in his life nor a slave.
ولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ شَيْئًا قَطُّ بِيَدِهِ وَلَا امْرَأَةً وَلَا خَادِمًا إِلَّا أَنْ يُجَاهِدَ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ"The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives."
Dr shabir Ally wrote a paper that the text doesn't mean beat your wife... Infact the word beat is not even in the text.. Read Surah 20:17-18 when Moses Pbuh says he uses His Staff to BEAT THE LEAVES .. (Wa ahushu) BEAT
In fact Imam Habib Alli one the meaning of Darb could be love and Romance, I.e show her love.
Note Prophet Muhammed Pbuh was against man beating his wife :
Narrated 'Abdullah bin Zam'a:
The Prophet said, "None of you should flog his wife as he flogs a slave and then have sexual intercourse with her in the last part of the day."
(Bukhari, Volume 7, Book 62, Number 132)
Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (3895) and Ibn Majaah (1977), also quoted in Imam Ghazzali's Ihya Ulum-Id-Din, Marriage section:
"The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives."